Tuesday, 12 September 2017

How to: get over the fear of blogging.

Since starting my blog in early August, I've questioned myself a lot on whether I should continue. Self doubt is a big thing and can easily stop you dead in your tracks. It would be so easy to give up now and let the fear take over, but when you enjoy blogging - why not fight through it and see exactly where this can take you. Do you ever feel the same? I thought I'd share with you my thoughts in case you're also going through what I'm going through and also the tactics I've implemented to try to overcome my fears.


So a few things about me first... I've worked in Digital Marketing for a number of years now, so when I started my own blog, people naturally assumed I knew exactly what to do. Not exactly true! I may know how to create content using a tone of voice, know how social media channels work and how you can be great at SEO - but when you've worked on 2 big UK brands like I have, being yourself is far more scary! Yes I also know how to plan and how things work but working on well established brands means people already have affinity with the brand, whereas when you're writing as yourself - where do you even start to get that?! If people see the likes of Virgin, Innocent, Disney etc they would naturally follow that brand if they like them. They're big names and everyone has heard of them. But when you're just 'Beside The Willow Tree', how exactly do you get your name out there? You could spend hours questioning yourself but then there would be no fun in blogging.

Try the following when you think about quitting

Don't be so hard on yourself

You're not going to get thousands of followers overnight - fact! It takes time and effort interacting with other bloggers and users and creating your content, so your followers won't grow overnight. I'm aiming for a steady incline and trying to set goals to what I want to achieve. Having loads of followers is great but if they're not engaged, what's the point? My aim is to focus more on my content first, then hoping it's engaging enough for people to follow. Here's hoping! Who's with me?

Take time to find your inspiration

I don't want to post just because I feel I have to and I only want to write when I have something I want to talk about. The reason I started blogging was because I wanted a hobby, so the fact I'm putting so much pressure on myself means it's becoming less of a hobby and more of my second job. It doesn't help I'm looking at the same stats I do during my 9-5 job and then when I get home, I'm still in work mode. What I need to do is take the time to decide what I want to write about and provide value to my readers. So if you're feeling the same, forget the results for a few weeks and focus on finding your inspiration.

Listen to what other bloggers have to say

There are so many facebook groups out there where bloggers help each other with queries, discuss strategy and also promote themselves. Use these groups to your advantage and ask their advice. The ones I use have amazing people who are willing to respond back and offer advice. They've probably already gone through the same thought process, so their suggestions may help get you back on track.


Look at other blogger content

I have a friend who also blogs like me and she always tells me to look at successful blogger content and remember they started out the same way we did. Everyone's content improves as they go along as they learn to find their tone of voice, niche, content and design style and even get more experienced with photography. Not only do you see that they've improved over the years but it will also inspire you with your own content. I'm not suggesting copying but seeing what others do will allow your creative juices to flow to come up with your own ideas!

Take a break

If you are feeling like me, why not take a small break to plan new ideas and work out what direction you want to go in. I did my last blog on Friday and I'm away with work for the next 2 weeks so naturally at the weekend I started trying to think about getting some content written in advance so I was still posting whilst I was away. I start for hours staring at a blank screen with zero inspiration, practically trying to force content out. So I took the last couple of days off to relax and not put so much stress on myself. And then this morning, I suddenly got inspiration to write this blog! I figured everyone probably gets these thoughts from time to time, so what was stopping me writing about my own experience. If I can at least help 1 blogger, then I've done my job!


Has anyone else felt like this before? And do you have any other recommendations on how to get your blogging back on track?

Friday, 8 September 2017

The Blogger Recognition Award

I woke up this morning in a panic as I’d slept through my alarm and I was rushing around trying to make it to work on time and I was thinking the day wasn’t going to go to plan. But after logging into my Instagram account, my mood quickly changed as I’d been so kindly nominated for the Blogger Recognition Award! To be honest I’m still in shock as I’ve only had my blog for a very short while.

I was nominated by Kellyluvs so I want to say a big thank you to her for picking me! Being so new to this, it’s a big surprise and I had to read her message a few times before it sunk in. Please go visit her blog and her Instagram account to see what she’s up to!

So what is the Blogger Recognition Award?

The Blogger Recognition Award is given to blogger by bloggers, to show the appreciation for their hard work. We all know blogging isn’t easy and it can take a lot of time creating content – especially if you’ve got a full time job too! I know I struggle to fit the time in what with work, maintaining relationships with family, friends and boyfriend – plus I’ve got a young dog to look after. So being nominated really does mean a lot to me.

So let’s talk about the rules...

1- Thank the blogger who nominated you! Also, provide a link so that others can visit their blog.
2- Share why you started blogging.
3- Give some advice to new bloggers.
4- Award 15 other bloggers.

Why I started blogging

I’ve worked in Digital Marketing for the past 4 years but have worked for 2 big UK brands and although I love it, I wanted to do something that allowed me to be myself rather than speaking with already established brand tone of voice. Honestly I’ve been thinking about doing it for years but didn’t quite have the courage or time to give it a go. The after speaking to a friend who was already doing it, I thought I’d made enough excuses why not to and just thought let’s go for it! It’s given me a hobby and also gives me time to myself and also express my creativity outside of work. I’m really enjoying it so far and I’m so glad I decided to have the courage to start.

My blog is about what I enjoy doing in my spare time, whether it’s travelling or eating a lot of cake with afternoon teas. Honestly I’m addicted! I like to talk about things that mean a lot to me and that’s what you’re going to be seeing more of over the next few months. It’s only just beginning!

Advice on blogging

  • Don’t be hard on yourself. If a social media or blog post doesn’t do as well as you hoped, don’t give up.
  • Talk about what you enjoy. 
  • Use your own tone of voice and don’t say things you wouldn’t normally say.
  • Try to find the time to commit to it but don’t be hard on yourself if you don’t always manage to get everything you wanted done.
  • Have a plan. A content plan will allow you to be more organised.
So by accepting this award I also nominated 15 other bloggers!

Thanks again to KellyLuvs for the nomination and giving me the chance to do this!

Here are my 15 nominations and don’t forget the rules!

Congrats all!

Tuesday, 5 September 2017

How to: Make scrummy Banoffee Cupcakes

We're back to dark mornings and there's a chill in the air which can only been one thing - Autumn and Winter are on their way. So naturally at this time of year, we start to eat more comfort food and that's when my baking really starts to kick in. It obviously helps that The Great British Bake Off is back on our screens so my interest always takes a peak.

With comfort food in mind, I decided to try my hand at putting together 2 of my favourite sweet treats... Banoffee and cupcakes. So I give you the Banoffee cupcake... enjoy!

What you need:

Cupcake mix

2 very ripe bananas
100g buttery spread
100g caster sugar
125g self raising flour
2 eggs
1 tsp baking powder
14 teaspoons of Carnation Caramel (you can buy this as a tin!)


100g Carnation Caramel
300g icing sugar
856 baking spread
Slices of banana
3 tbsp Carnation Caramel
Chocolate shavings

Don't forget you'll also need your muffin tin. Size depends on how many you're making! And cupcake cases, again depends on how big you want to make them. Mine were only small as they tend to be quite sweet.


Step 1:

Preheat your oven to 160 degrees if you have a fan oven. 180 will work for others. And place your cupcake cakes into your muffin tin so they're ready for later.

Step 2:

Mash your bananas in a dish and leave to one side for later. Then use a large bowl and add in your flour, baking spread, caster sugar, eggs and baking powder. Beat the mix until it's light and creamy. Then grab your banana mix from earlier and fold in.

Step 3:

Spoon half of your mixture into your cupcake cases and then add a spoonful of caramel into each one and top with the remaining cake mix. Most people aren't expecting caramel inside when they take their first bite, so this adds a lovely touch. Bake them for about 20 minutes or until they feel springy to the touch. When ready leave them to cool.

Step 4:

Beat 100g caramel with your baking spread and icing sugar and this should form a thick icing. As this mixture is quite sweet, I don't usually have it too thick but it depends on how you like your cupcakes. If you're opting for thick icing, you can use a piping bag to pipe onto the cakes, or if you're using a thinner version - use a spoon. Beat a few teaspoons of caramel until smooth and then you can use this as a drizzle over your icing. Then just top with a banana slice and add some chocolate shavings to finish.


Monday, 4 September 2017

Afternoon tea round-up

You might have guessed by now that I'm partial to an afternoon tea or two. I've been to so many over the years that there's just too many to talk about but I thought if you're a lover of cake and tea too - why not give you a round-up of the very best! So let's do just that... I give you my top 7 afternoon teas from around the UK. Enjoy!

No. 1 - Charlie and the Chocolate Factory - Old Aldwych 

It's not surprising that this comes in at number 1 as the choice you get is incredible. The Old Aldwych is a stunning hotel and along with delicious cakes and drinks, it really is the height of luxury. You get everything from golden eggs to homemade candyfloss which reflects the theme of Roald Dahl's classic book. Afternoon teas can be quite samey, so if you're looking for something different - this one will be for you! And bring your appetite, you will get full... trust me!

No. 2 - Dormy House

If you've read my previous afternoon tea blog on Dormy House, you'll recognise this one. And if not - why not! Go read it now :) This quaint hotel and spa in the Cotswolds is perfect for afternoon tea and the food isn't half bad either! I've visited twice so that should tell you that it's one to visit. The cakes are morish and from someone who's a bit of a picker eater, the sandwiches are right up my street too! And if you're more of a savory fan, you can order extra bits like a sausage roll or scotch egg. Mmm!

No. 3 - B Bakery

This one is my most recent and I know a few of you have read my blog on this so it shouldn't be any surprise to see it in my top 3. Again if you haven't, go see what all the fuss is about here. Combining a bus tour of London and enough cake and sandwiches to throw a stick at - B Bakery is definitely for the more adventurous afternoon tea types. If you're not London, don't despair as they also have a bakery and tours in Bath - so it's definitely worth giving it a try.

No. 4 - The Dome

One of my favourite cities is Edinburgh, so it was only natural I made sure I had a trip to The Dome planned when I went there in January. This really is an institution in Edinburgh and the interior alone is spectacular. But they really do go all out with their cake and cocktail offering. I'm not normally one to have a cocktail when I do these, mainly as I'm normally the driver - but they were too good to resist! There wasn't as much choice as other teas I've done before which is why it only gets to number 4 but what they did produce was extremely delicious. It's definitely worth a visit!

No. 5 - Luton Hoo

Beautiful surroundings and good cake - that pretty much sums Luton Hoo up to a tee! You get a good selection of sandwiches and cakes and the scones were to die for. And if you need to walk off your tea, they have amazing walks around the hotel to burn those extra calories. You can read more about those in my weekend walks blog.

No. 6 - Kilworth House

I took my mum to Kilworth House for her 60th birthday and it really was lovely. The house is beautiful and luckily it's not too far from where I live. I've been here twice for birthday celebrations funnily enough and they always give the birthday girl an extra special surprise if you let them know in advance. The food isn't the best I've had which is why it comes in at number 6 but for £25 for a full afternoon tea - you can't go wrong. 

No. 7 - Pump Rooms

When in Bath, a visit to the Pump Rooms is a must and it goes without saying the afternoon tea is worth a try. Out of everywhere I've tried, the food didn't quite come up to scratch but they had a lot to live up to! The gentlemens tea is probably the star of the show as you get to enjoy a Somerset cider and try the delights of sausage roll and crumble. Don't get me wrong the standard afternoon tea is nice but it didn't quite hit the spot. For the location alone though, I'd say it's worth exploring. And if you're off the Bath any time soon for a city break, have a read about how I got on in my relax in Bath blog. 

Did that get your mouth watering? I'd love to hear your recommendations on where I should try next so share them in the comment box below.

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